The Story that changed my life......

I Went up to Oaktown to visit the Bean. I do this quite often as she is my granddaughter. So nothing different then the usual stuff food and games. Saturday 3am my phone rings it is the Local Police Department. To try to make a life altering call simple..... your partner has made a reckless decision and you must return home. This involved guns and our friend (NOT) Booze. 

So home I go. When I returned home he was in jail and I had an important decision to make. I will go into this further once I get this all caught up to what's going on today. So 25 years of marriage lost in 25 seconds snap your fingers that's how fast my life changed. The year that followed this crisis was probably looking back at it one of the most emotional things has ever happened although I've had a lot of stuff happen.This event was what changed my life in ways I could not have imagined. It may of course  seem like a rush but file for divorce I did  the day after the event. The next project grab my partner's  belongings as much as he would need to get along put it in his truck and drop that and the keys off at the jail. My daughter came down from Oakland as emotional support and I couldn't have been happier at the time of course me being so brave and so strong you didn't need anyone. But the day I went to the jail I saw my partner was heartbreaking. There's a part of my story I don't make public because anonymity is everything to me but I've done a sober member of AA for 38 years and drinking is something that I will not tolerate what is that something you ask? Drinking as an active alcoholic. But just so that you know he was aware of this and I do not want to be categorized as a heartless b****. And my partner understood he knew the coincidences of his actions and accepted them probably didn't want to but did. So that's the story to start and get us back on track with our website life and letting you people know what's going on. Some of these posts will have pictures some of them won't because there are many things that I did not take pictures of which I'm sure everyone will be glad. Another thing I will not do is name names because this is my story and it is not my place to tell someone else's part in my life. 

2025 Let Go

We are finally here. I have been blogging since 2008 on this little blog and have taken many a break. But as I come to the end of 2025 and yes it's only August but trust me it'll only be a blink of an eye when I'll be saying what happened how could it be 2026?

I find that it's time for me to share my experience, strength and hope. Every one of us has a story. Some quite exciting some exceptionally bland. But let me give you a little idea of what I'm trying to get across here. My name is Lani and I am a 70 year old woman who has had a heck of a life and I want to share that with you. Let's give you a baby clip. I was born the year Disneyland opened 1955 that should say it all. My life has been an incredible ride with many incredible ups and just as many downs. So many rewards and more lessons than I could ever hope to share with anyone. I grew up in what at that time was a dysfunctional family but whose wasn't. 

During this period it was very different than now and what happened stay buried and what you did you were 100% responsible for yet nobody knew. The first 32 years of my life were wonderful the next 38 years of my life were even more amazing. But from day one until today my life has just been one of the most amazing adventures one person could have experienced. And I'm going to share all this with you. Lucky

These posts may go from one extreme to another pretty quickly but with each post I will try my best to get across the story, the lesson learned, and the solution. Trust me you'll see and no doors closed to anything I've been through. But keep in mind this is my story anyone that was involved in this story their names and issues will not be mentioned.

Big Changes and how I got Here

Good Morning Spokane ! Yes indeed I have taken the thing I have talked about for the last 10 years and  "gone done it" I left Cali-for-Nye-A. Adios money sucker, joy taker, non responsive humans I am heading to the mountain's. Now do not get me wrong I am far to old to start my own homestead but on a smaller scale it is possible (for now). So you stick with this little blog and we will show how we can do it. I am doin this under grave circumstances. I will explain this in detail in one of the next post you read but for now let us talk about the idea and the move.

For long over 10 years I have longed to move out of California. I Love this state and what it use to be. I was born in Hawaii and migrated over here because my father got his big break in California. Great I was young and adjustable it worked. I went to good schools, made life time friends and had a good life. 

I married my first husband nothing worth mentioning but I did get two wonderful children from that adventure. You all know them. Hank "The Chosen One" and Heather Anne my baby girl "Ms. Independence". I took them after 18 years of marriage and an allergic reaction to my husband way's and then boom here comes my second hubby. A gift from the Good Lord. Until he was not. 25 years of a great marriage and POOF all is lost. Long story and one I will put in my book. 

So here I was September 23rd 2023 and my life was blown up as I knew it and in so little as 24 hours I am at a cross road with no stop signs. To call it emotional Chaos is an understatement. But we have been taught and trained to put our Big Girl Panties on and remember My Higher Power does not give me more than I can handle. Bullshit I say because my HP has a weird sense of humor and idea on what is best for me. 

STORY TO COME PROMISE !

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Given no choice I needed to make some changes. And so at the beginning of the year 2024 I purchased a nice little 1938 home in Spokane. I would be coming up with my dog and my positive spirit. I spent the remained of the spring and early summer packing and making arrangements for the home in California. Unfortunately my dog Casey passed  a week prior to our planned move. So sad but for the best for her the travel and change would have taken a toll on her. 

So I am up here now and I am going to let you join me to watch renovation and changes I hope to make to my little home. 

I so miss my land I had but there is a lot of ot here !   

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And here we are 2024

Well it is 2024 and this dear year has really tried my patience. But first a bit on how the family is doing. The most important person is the Bean my granddaughter sit down this will hit you hard but she is 7 years old. SAY WHAT ! I do have to say that I believe she is going to turn out to be quite like her Yaya. More about her as we get reacquainted. 

The youngsters are doing great Heather and Chris still up in Oaktown rocking that place. Christopher has gotten promoted a few times with in the Berkley School District and Heather between mamahood and Hairdressing well she to rock that bay area. And what do you say about that little Nugget my Bean she is 7 can you believe that time has passed so quickly. I think I will blame her for my lost time off line. There you have it.

Now let us travel up PNW a big change. The  chosen one Hank and Linzie have moved to the beautiful state of Washington. The change took time but they did all their research and that was the spot. The result they are so Happy and that is what every parent want's. The have a new baby Lemmy my new Granddog and he is a hoot. I have spent time with him and that is another post of it's own. They purchased a home for a 1/4 of the price of California and why not. The state is beautiful, less political bullshit and so many wonderful things to do. I am enjoying the things I have discovered up there and will post about them all. But for now the most important thing is they are so happy.

Well it is already March and what I have been through is more than I can put into this post. But my life is about to change drastically. I do not know when, how or why .... ok I know why but that is not the point. 

You all know my other websites and I am going to try to get them into one place not a small task but one that I can do. With that Happy New Years for the last 4 plus years.

Let's Go ! 

2020 Not So Bad

As we put a close to this year of amazing changes in our own lives as well as the lives that surround us let's try to put a positive spin on 2020. But first let's take a look at what has happened. At the beginning of the year we were all running around zippin here dashin there. Then as February flew by March brought us a new delima. We were facing a virus that we had yet to understand the impact it would have on our world as we knew it. 

Businesses will never be the same and some will never recover. Families have lost loved ones and we all know someone that lost the fight with Coronavirus. I personally lost the first 6 months of 2020 to my battle with Lung Cancer it left me physical and mentally lost. A Blur I would say. I never once denied the virus or its impact on society. We lost Lu my Mother-in-love this year and it was tragic. 

Then comes the tragic death of George Floyds. Yet again here in America we are faced with our own ignorance when it came to racism and prejudice. The fight continues. 

We have become a spoiled and ignorant country who seem to think we are the greatest. We have so much to learn. I know it will not be learned in my lifetime. Hopefully my children and their children will. The same children who are unable to get an education due to that nasty virus and our ability to not go to any length to make sure every child gets what he or she needed. It will be labeled as the generation that can not spell or read. No fault of theirs or their teachers' Let give a tremendous thank you to those front line people who teach our children from their own home everyday. A thankless job due to the 70 % of parents who just do not give a s****. 

Let us be grateful for so many things like Zoom that has kept so many people able to communicate with family. Workers to continue being gainfully employed because they can do their work from home. 

What I have seen this year in my own world is families coming together at the table to enjoy a meal. Taking your children for a walk, camping, board games and connecting in ways you never imagined you did without. Have you noticed all the things your children have taught you in the last year? 

So lets be grateful for ......

• We have all become incredibly aware of all the front line workers that have worked tirelessly to help those in need. 
• The Food Bank, Church's and Community Centers that have made sure we all have food to eat. 
• The Farmers who have given their food to us so it does not go to waste. 
• To the Market's and stores and the workers who have kept the shelves stocked and clean for us. 
• To the teachers who work to keep our children educated.
• The firemen who put their lives on the line to keep us safe. 
• To the neighbor who came to see that you were ok.
• To everyone who said a prayer for you even if you did not believe in the power of a prayer. 
• To the person who made you smile today even behind a mask. 
• To everyone who has shown up to help in any way they can. 
• To all the YouTube Videos you watched to learn something new. 

The list goes on it is endless the things we an be grateful for. 

Thank you 2020 you were a year for the books !